Both times we have breastfed, but it hasn’t gone smooth either time. With Belle she wreaked my nipples so I started feeding with shields and expressing! I got mastitis and almost died and then it took three months of feeding with shields to get her back on the boob!
Name: Olivia White
Kids (name + ages): Annabelle, 2 and Theodora (Teddy), 4 weeks
Tell me about you! What’s your background?
Oh gosh right into it ha-ha! Well I’m an only child and a Taurus, so I think that can tell you a bit about me 😉
I’m 26 and the mumma of two gorgeous daughters, Annabelle & Theodora. I am also married to my best friend and love of my life, Jeremy (corny I know but it’s totes true) whom I met while drunk out one-night drunk roaming down King St in Melbourne. We’ve been together for 11 years now!
Growing up I always wanted to be a marine biologist, I was obsessed with sharks and Titanic documentaries. However, I ended up studying Marketing and Public Relations, don’t know how I got so lost along the way lol.
Where in the word do you call home?
Wherever my family are is my home. It doesn’t have a physical place for me 😉
You run a very successful Mummy blog called House of White. Why did you start the blog and how did it grow?
I started the blog when Annabelle was about a year old. I had followed several bloggers through their journey of motherhood and I found it was a really great way to connect and share with other mums when a lot of my friends were yet to have families and kids of their own.
Having a background in journalism (I ran a blog for Racing Victoria pre baby) I felt it was just a natural progression and its been amazing how much its grown. I love having such a wonderful community of people around me to keep me company during those 2 am feeds!
You are very open and honest about motherhood, you certainly don’t hold back. I try and take the same approach and although the majority of comments and followers are 100% supportive, I’ve also had some really negative experiences, especially on social media. How do you navigate this and what do you find the most challenging thing about “putting yourself out there”?
I think I am a bit lucky in this regard because I have received next to no negativity on my blog/IG yet. That’s probs because I’m not that big ha-ha maybe its still to come.
On the odd occasion I have received a negative or mean comment I kind of just run with it and make a whitty joke in response (that drives the trolls crazy ha) or most often ignore it.
A lot of people will block and delete those repeat offenders who are just out to start drama but honestly I don’t even see the point, as a public profile people can still see your stuff even if you block them by simply logging out of IG and searching your profile haha
Tell us about being a “mummy blogger” – what are the pros and cons? Is it as easy as everyone thinks?
It’s so weird to think of yourself as a ‘mummy blogger’ as a job title I think. Because it’s honestly just something I love and enjoy doing.
It was so fun to create a blog (I am a tad nerdy) and social presence and then take those skills I had in my previous jobs and then revolve it around what I love doing, which is being a mum!
It does have its shitty moments when you do get those negative comments, or the drama that comes with any large group of woman ha ha but for the most part its just an amazingly wonderful community of women supporting women, mum’s helping mum’s – I love it!
We connected on Instagram and I know you’ve established other really strong friendships and relationships like with you gal @__laurenkate (MADMAXMUM). Can you tell me a little bit about making friends on the internet and how Instagram has helped you on your motherhood journey?
I honestly tell people its like Tinder for mums! I have met so many amazing people via Instagram (yourself included), some who’ve become my best friends! One of the first blogs I followed when I became a mum was Tara Dixon (@taradixon_), she is now one of my best friends whom I see and chat to daily!
Throughout your life you change, your circumstances change and naturally your friendships change! So being surrounded by a community of people with similar interests and lives it makes sense your going to make friends – It’s awesome!
You recently welcomed your second baby, Teddy Mae to the world – how has bringing home baby number 2 compared to your first? I found those first few weeks horrific and I’ve always wondered how it would be second time around, is it easier or do you think you just have more confidence? Fill me in!
You know I have to be honest, I think I was in denial the entire 9 months of pregnancy this time. Because I had passed that whole newborn/infant stage and somewhat got my life back, I had forgotten how time consuming and crazy it can be!
It is hard, but no where near as hard as the first time I don’t think! We are so busy, its so insane trying to wrangle a toddler AND a newborn (whom I express feed, which is effing time consuming) but we just seem to manage?! Its so weird! Its like I’m too busy to even realize how hard it is if that’s possible!
You had a complicated and traumatic first birth experience with your daughter, Annabelle. Can you tell us a bit about that? How did you cope and did it take you long to heal both physically and emotionally?
Ughh yes it was shit ha
Obviously your first birth you don’t really have a say on how its gonna go. You just have to wait till you go into labor and take it from there.
Well I had a pretty shit pregnancy, and ended up being induced. Long story short I had three rounds of gel that didn’t work before they put the drip in. I then had that for another 10 hours and still minimal progress!
After almost 56 hours my OBGYN called that I needed an emergency Caesar. By this stage it was the middle of the night, I was so tired and exhausted that I could hardly stay away during the surgery!
Once she was born, everyone was so drained that they ended up taking Annabelle to the nursery so I could get some sleep (I was delirious and drugged) so it meant I hardly saw my daughter in that first few hours she was born.
The next day was even worse, still tired, drugged up to my eyeballs and I just couldn’t cope. They ended up sedating me because I was crying and screaming!
I thing this prolonged my recovery because it had been so hard on me mentally and physically!
You were pretty determined not to have a repeat experience and went straight in for a planned c-section for your second birth. I know a lot of people had an opinion on this and it wasn’t all positive or supportive. This must have been hard to handle, especially when you were so anxious and worried about what happened with your first birth. How was this experience different, would you make the same decision again and do you have any advice for other parents who are dealing with negativity about their elective c-section?
All I can say is WOW! What a difference it was the second time.
Like you mentioned I was DETERMINED because I wanted to have some control over my birth experience and make it as empowering and enjoyable as possible. I am so happy I did because that’s exactly what it was!
I honestly couldn’t care less what anyone else thinks because I am so happy with how it went. I rocked up that morning, had a baby by 9am and left to come home the next day. My recovery was so quick and we’ve been able to just get back into the swing of things and focus on being a family!
As for advise, I mean it isn’t for everyone and you need to talk to your OBGYN about your options but for us it was the best option – for both personal and health reasons!
Tell me about pregnancy – love it or hate it!?
Look, first time I freakin’ hated it but second time, while I didn’t LOVE it, I enjoyed and embraced it a lot more! I figured it was my last time so I might as well just go with it!
Did you breastfeed? If so, what did you find challenging about it and what made you stick with it?
Pardon my French but FUCK ME, breastfeeding is hard!
Yes, both times we have breastfed, but it hasn’t gone smooth either time. With Belle she wreaked my nipples so I started feeding with shields and expressing! I got mastitis and almost died and then it took three months of feeding with shields to get her back on the boob!
I also started to struggle with supply and had to really focus on what I ate and not exercise so I still made milk!
This time its even worse, I got nipple thrush and had to start expressing and bottle feeding. We didn’t get diagnosed for a few weeks so now that its finally gone I cant seem to get Teddy back on the boob.
I’m gonna be honest, I’m hating it at the moment and don’t know how much longer we will last if nothing changes!
Both times I have been faced with so many challenges, but I hate being defeated and last time that kept me going with Belle and when we stopped it was on my terms so see how I go this time lol
What is your biggest daily struggle with motherhood and how do you manage that?
TIME! There isn’t enough of it. I get nothing done and I blink and my baby ages before my eyes. I need MORE TIME!
I’m yet to manage it, maybe invent a time machine? Or a clone of myself will fix it!